Are YOU in an abusive relationship?
• Do you find yourself making excuses or minimizing your partner’s behaviour?
• Is your partner threatening or violent towards you or the children?
• Do you feel completely controlled by your partner?
• Do you feel helpless, trapped, alone and isolated?
• Do you blame yourself for the violence?
• Does your partner blame you and tell you that you are the cause of all their problems?
• Does your partner constantly accuse you of having affairs when they can’t account for 100% of your time? Do they tell you jealousy is a sing of love?
• Do you find yourself lying to hide your partner’s behavior?
What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence and emotional abuse are behaviors used in an intimate or dating relationship to control the other. Partners may be married or not; heterosexual or gay, lesbian or transgendered; living together, separated or dating.
Domestic violence should not happen to anybody. EVER. Period. But it does. Maybe you have lived with abuse, maybe it happened just once; maybe you work or live next to someone who is being abused.
Whoever you are, we can help. You Deserve to Live Free of Fear. We are here to help You.
Call our 24-Hour Crisis Hotline (808) 579-9581
In an Emergency
If you are afraid for your safety CALL 9-1-1.
Tell the dispatcher your Life is in Danger and you need help Immediately.
If you can’t get to a phone to call 9-1-1, LEAVE. The first thing you should do is put yourself out of harm’s way and get to a safe place or a public place where others can see you.
Anyone Can Be a Victim
Domestic violence can happen to anyone regardless of race, age, sexual orientation, religion, or gender. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels. Domestic violence occurs in both opposite-sex and same-sex relationships and can happen to intimate partners who are married, living together, or dating.
If you are being abused, REMEMBER –
You are not alone
It’s not your fault
Help is available
If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship and needs help or would like to speak with someone about domestic violence, confidential help is available 24 hours a day. Our staff is prepared to assist callers in preparing safety plans, respond to general questions about domestic violence, provide referrals, and share additional information about our programs and services.